‘Commit to Win — — How to Harness the Four Elements of Commitment to Reach Your Goals’ (VI)
This week, we’ll continue with the remaining parts of ‘Commit to Win — — How to Harness the Four Elements of Commitment to Reach Your Goals’ by Heidi Reeder
Contributions: How Much have you Given?
1. We often think commitment precedes contribution, that if a person is committed to a cause then she’ll contribute to it. In reality, contribution often precedes commitment. Our actions drive our level of commitment as much as our level of commitment drives our actions. If a person contributes to a cause, then she’ll likely be committed to it.
2. You are in charge of what you do with your time, talent, tenderness, and tangibles. Whatever you contribute to, even in small amounts, will gain energy and importance. What you don’t contribute to will lose energy and importance.
3. People who live together before getting married are more likely to get a divorce.
4. Marriages that begin with premarital cohabitation also experience poorer quality of communication, increased negativity, lower satisfaction, reduced relationship quality, and more physical aggression.
5. If you are interested in assisting others to higher commitment, invite their contributions. Consider one or more of the following avenues for doing so.
a) Ask for small contributions before asking for larger contributions.
b) Always thank them for their contribution. They need to know how much you value their time, talent, tenderness, and/or tangibles.
c) Be mindful that you continue to create an environment in which others have something to treasure. Otherwise they may be committed but not happy.
Choices: What are Your Alternatives?
1. People who viewed pornography more frequently were also more likely to cheat on their partner. Regular viewing of attractive people having sex appears to create a perception of a world with lots of seemingly available partners. If you expect to have abundant choices, you’ll be less devoted to what you already have.
2. Surfing the future for all possibilities keeps us from making commitments. If you give your attention and energy to a commitment and it still isn’t right, at least you’ll know you made an effort. You’ll be able to walk away with confidence and let go of the what-ifs.
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還是冷一點較好
約兩星期前, 在電台聽到以下的一首歌: 輕輕的、柔柔的、灰灰的, 很合我胃口。
作詞：許常德 作曲：季中平
好冷 雪已經積得那麼深
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU 我深愛的人
好冷 整個冬天在你家門
ARE YOU MY SNOWMAN?
我痴痴痴痴地等
雪一片一片一片一片 拼出你我的緣份
我的愛因你而生 你的手摸出我的心疼
雪一片一片一片一片 在天空靜靜繽紛
眼看春天就要來了 而我也將
也將不再生存
好冷 雪已經積得那麼深
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU 我深愛的人
好冷 整個冬天在你家門
ARE YOU MY SNOWMAN?
我痴痴痴痴地等
雪一片一片一片一片 拼出你我的緣份
我的愛因你而生 你的手摸出我的心疼
雪一片一片一片一片 在天空靜靜繽紛
眼看春天就要來了 而我也將
也將不再生存
雪一片一片一片一片 拼出你我的緣份
我的愛因你而生 你的手摸出我的心疼
雪一片一片一片 在天空靜靜繽紛
眼看春天就要來了 而我也將
也將不再生存
歌詞來源: https://www.kkbox.com/hk/tc/song/oT2pQQC00UM2O32N232N20P4-index.html
歲晚收爐, 待初八後, 上載一本談本地文化的書, 謝謝!
