‘Simple is the New Smart — 26 success strategies to build confidence, inspire yourself, and reach your ultimate potential’ (I)
‘Simple is the New Smart — 26 success strategies to build confidence, inspire yourself, and reach your ultimate potential’ by Rob Fazio
‘Insecurity — Install a security system’: Confidence corral is all of the things that bring out your confidence. It can be things you say to yourself, what you wear, who you talk with, the way you stand, what you eat, or the questions you ask yourself. The more you make confidence a norm, the less chance insecurity gets to create a storm.
‘Stubbornness — Releasing control to gain control’: There is a difference between being stubborn and being focused. When you are focused, you consider consequences, have grit, and make the decision to move forward. (當你專注時, 你會顧及結果, 堅毅前行)When you are being stubborn, you are getting emotionally stuck and not thinking of the big picture. (當你固執時, 就看不到全局。)
‘Getting stuck in reverse- Shifting gears’: Ensure that you ask yourself positive and strength-based questions. For example:
1) What do I need to do to build my credibility?
2) What skills do I want to develop this year?
3) What did I learn from that tough experience?
4) How can I help other people?
(每天問自己: 如何令自己靠得住? 新一年要學些甚麼? 如何幫助別人?)
Spending a little time every day paying attention to what you ask and what you tell yourself will go a long way.
‘The blind side- Mind your blind side’： ‘What do other people say about you in jest?’ ‘What don’t I get asked to do that I want to do?’ — — These questions are good indicators of some blind spots that may have emerged. Often things said in jest are an indirect way to give people feedback.
‘Political denial- be Savvy, not slimy’: Instead of just focusing on areas of growth, find something you are good at and get better. It is beneficial to hedge your bets at knowing what you are good at and getting even better. (在已有強項中加以發展, 對己有益)
‘Passive persuasion: the persuasion pyramid’: The more persuasive you are, the more you can help others help themselves. Think through what
the other person is likely to say and how they will react. Identify what topics may come up that could throw you off your focus. Know what you want prior to the conversation.
The more credible you are, the easier it is for you to persuade people. Some of the building blocks of credibility are transparent communication, following through on commitments, managing your emotions, and treating people with respect. (個人誠信建基於: 坦誠溝通、兌現承諾、良好情緒管理和尊重別人)
‘Analysis paralysis- decision precision’: The following are some common mistakes that people make when making decisions:
1) Believing that the amount of time you spend on a decision directly improves its value.
2) Spending too much time on collecting more information than you need.
3) Going with your first choice
4) Worrying too much about what others think
5) Not worrying at all about what others think
‘Firefighting and Emotion Commotion: Emotional Intelligence in Action’: Know your emotional triggers. Emotional triggers are the events, people, sayings and situations that grab your emotional attention. An example of an emotional trigger is that person in meetings who keeps going off topic and makes the meeting run longer.
Know your trigger. Do something to help yourself take the power away from the emotion associated with the trigger. An example would be to remove yourself from the situation or to have something you can say to yourself to maintain your composure. For example, ‘This is just a temporary feeling and it will pass, and then I can decide what I want to do.’
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