‘Things No one Taught us about Love’ (V)

This week, we’ll continue with ‘Things No one Taught us about Love’ by Vex King.

41. Beyond touch, gifts, words of affirmation, quality time and acts of service, here are a few other love languages:

Patience, forgiveness, listening, awareness, friendship, accountability, teamwork, shared values and beliefs, compassion, authentic communication, future planning, flirting, shared memes, comfortable silences.

42. The very nature of love is that it can’t be completely defined. A single act cannot embody the entire essence of love. Love doesn’t need to shout, or brag or put on a show.

43. Create a caring waltz. Offer a safety net for your partner by saying,’ You seemed annoyed with me and I’d like to talk it through. Can we do that when you feel able to?’ Then give them the respect to choose the time and place to talk.

44. As you go through the process of talking and listening, it doesn’t mean that the other person will have all the answers. The answers will come in time.

45. Not everything has to be a battle of wills about who’s right and who’s wrong. You have to accept that there will be differences of opinion.

46. Acknowledge and take responsibility for what you did or said that is upsetting your partner.

The realities of relationships:

47. Finds ways to be flexible in your plans and agree on mutual compromises so that you don’t run the risk of sacrificing your own dreams in order to fulfill theirs.

48. Share time where you are focused on each other, like a weekly date night to cook a fun recipe together, or visiting a new coffee shop on Sundays.

49. Sit next to them at home, hold their hand in the street, offer to give them a massage… and be clear that not all touch is about initiating sex.

50. It’s possible to feel more attracted to your partner on some days than on others, just as you feel more or less attractive depending on your mood. This doesn’t mean you love each other any less.

51. Assure them their opinion matters, even if it challenges your own. Help them feel safe enough to open up. Remind them that you’re here to listen. Empathy, understanding and boundaries will take down a stonewaller, brick by brick.

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是你令我的冰冷世界 能溫暖……」